by Admin Admin | Apr 23, 2026 | Lust, Relationships, Sexual Purity
A married woman faces a quiet but serious test—tempted by her husband’s closest friend, yet choosing not to give in.
The truth remains: sexual purity is not just about what you do, but what you allow and conceal.
The Bible calls us to honor marriage and walk in the light, not in secret.
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure” (Hebrews 13:4).
No benefit, favor, or fear should make you compromise what is right.
Choose integrity. Choose truth. Choose purity—even when it is difficult.
by Admin Admin | Apr 9, 2026 | Advice to Young Adults, Relationships, Sexual Purity, Sexuality
A father once sat his son down and said:
“My son, the world will tell you that being a man means chasing women, boasting about your conquests, and giving in to every desire. But that is not true manhood.”
A real man shows self-control.
A real man shows respect for women.
A real man protects his character and dignity.
Sexual purity is not weakness—it is strength. It means you are strong enough to control your desires instead of letting them control you.
One day you will become someone’s husband. The way you live today will determine the kind of man you will be tomorrow.
My son, walk with discipline.
Honor your body.
Honor God.
A man of dignity guards his purity.
by Admin Admin | Apr 9, 2026 | Advice to Young Adults, Lust, Relationships, Sexual Purity, Sexuality
A mother told her teenage daughter:
“Never let anyone pressure you into giving away what should only be shared in marriage.”
Love is patient.
Love respects boundaries.
Love does not rush intimacy.
A boy who truly respects you will honor your values, not push you to break them.
Your worth is not measured by how attractive you are or how many people want you. Your worth comes from the dignity you carry and the standards you refuse to lower.
My daughter, protect your future by protecting your purity today.
by Admin Admin | Apr 9, 2026 | Advice to Young Adults, Relationships, Sexual Purity, Sexuality
A father spoke to his teenage son with seriousness and love:
“My son, your strength is not proven by how many girls you can attract. Your strength is proven by the standards you refuse to break.”
Anyone can follow temptation.
But it takes a man of character to walk away.
Sexual purity protects your mind, your future, and the woman you will one day marry. It teaches you respect, patience, and responsibility.
Never treat a woman as an object for pleasure. Treat her as someone’s daughter who deserves honor.
Be the kind of man people can trust.
Be the kind of man who keeps his values even when no one is watching.
That is true dignity.
by Admin Admin | Mar 6, 2026 | Relationships, Sexual Purity
He loved her deeply yet he chose not to touch her.
And no, he was not weak.
His name was David.
He was young, smart, and financially stable for his age. But in his world, self-control was mocked. People believed love was proven by how far you could go, not by how much you could restrain yourself.
David carried a quiet promise a vow he never announced. A decision he made when no one was watching or clapping.
Before meeting her, some women doubted him because he refused sex before marriage.
One said, “I can’t marry a man if I don’t know how he performs.”
Another mocked him, “Are you sure you’re not gay?”
Then he met Zara.
She was different. Her beauty was gentle, not loud. She spoke thoughtfully and carried her dreams carefully. Their love didn’t start with drama it started with conversations, long walks, and prayers said apart, yet somehow connected.
Zara noticed something unusual about David.
He never pushed boundaries.
Never tested her limits.
Never made her feel like her body was proof of love.
One evening she asked,
“Don’t you struggle? Don’t you feel tempted?”
David smiled — honestly.
“I do. But I respect you enough to wait.”
That moment changed everything.
Instead of pressure, they chose patience.
Instead of intimacy, they built trust.
Instead of rushing, they grew in values.
Temptation came it always does.
But each time, David chose self-control not because he lacked desire, but because he had direction.
Zara learned something powerful:
Some men don’t stay because you give in.
Some men stay because they respect you.
When they finally stood at the altar, their hands shook not from experience, but from anticipation. Their love had not been used up. It was preserved.
And when the right time came, it felt peaceful.
Not rushed.
Not guilty.
Not empty.
Just right.
Purity is not weakness.
Discipline is beautiful.
And a man who waits is not lacking desire he is mastering it.
Because some love is not meant to be rushed.
It is meant to be kept…
Then enjoyed fully,
In the right season.
Indeed, sexual purity pays.
#GodlyLove#BiblicalSexualPurity
by Hosanna David | Nov 17, 2020 | Relationships
For many Christians in courtship, the level of intimacy has always been a topic of confusion, we all know that intimacy is what helps in building strong bonds, and for Christians who are courting, building a strong bond before marriage Is important. Now many courting couples are usually confused on this based on the physical aspect of intimacy, but it is important to note that intimacy is not just about the physical bonding, but about spiritual, emotional and psychological bonding.
The English dictionary defines intimacy as a feeling or atmosphere of closeness, towards someone, that doesn’t necessarily involve sexuality. This therefore means that intimacy is far beyond physical bonding. For Christian couples in courtship, there is the need and importance for intimacy, especially in the spiritual, emotional and psychological areas, there is the need for a deep connection and bonding between the intending couples, although if boundaries are not properly put in place, intimacy could lead to unintended ugly results, especially in the physical aspects.
We are going to be solely focused on the physical level of intimacy on this article, this is because there is need for more light to be shed on the appropriate level of physical intimacy, this intimacy or bonding needs more boundaries then any other forms of intimacy, or else sexual immorality could very well easily seep into the bonding process.
Now physical intimacy involves all the physical show of affection care, encouragement, love and affirmation and these includes, hugs, pats, light cuddling, pecks, forehead kisses, and so many other forms of affection. It is necessary and important for courting couples to understand that these physical show of affections and care are to be shown or done without anything remotely sexual in mind. The bible tells us to greet one another with a ‘holy kiss’ (Romans 16:16, 1 Thessalonians 5:6, 1 Corinthians 15:20) this ‘holy kiss’ better relates to all forms of physical show of affection and care that is not sexual in any way.
When these physical shows of intimacy are not put in boundaries, they could turn wild for example, pecks and light kisses could turn into deep French kissing, light cuddling could turn into heavy petting and fondling, and all these can easily get one sexually aroused, and then sex happens. One major thing to note is that in the bid to avoid going past boundaries in courtship, Christians should not shun out any form of intimacy in their relationship, because this is important in building strong bonds like earlier stated.
In creating these boundaries, courting Christians must first know what easily gets their partners aroused, and they can get these information by communicating with their partners, for some persons, they can’t go past the stage of holding hands, because anything relatively closer or more intimate like hugging, pecks, could get them sexually excited. For other persons, hugs and pecks do not get them sexually excited about their partners, so before these boundaries can be set, partners must first know each other’s weaknesses, for example if you know that that tight embraces easily gets your partner aroused, you would try to limit giving hugs, and especially in private places.
Another thing to do is to make sure that parts of the body which can be highly sensitive for both partners should be avoided. Like earlier stated, the best way to ensure these boundaries is for Christians in courtship to talk about each other’s weakness, and strength, so that one person doesn’t lead the other to sin.
Most importantly, Christian couples should know and understand that Godly relationships do not have to be completely empty of any kind of physical intimacy, but they should know that whatever forms of intimacy that is being initiated should and must glorify God.
Just to be clear, it is advisable that any form of intimacy beyond hugs, forehead kisses, pecks on the cheeks, light cuddling, holding of hands, should be avoided, some people may say that light pecks on the lips are ok, but I say otherwise, because light kisses on the lips could one day turn into something else, after all kissing is basically intentionally putting one’s flesh up for temptation, and that is not a very wise decision as Christians.
Lastly Christian couples should pray and seek God’s face in their relationship, and ask for the holy spirit who is the great guide and teacher to guide them and to help them not fall into temptations.
