by Admin Admin | Sep 12, 2026 | Advice to Young Adults, Decency, News & Views, Relationships, Sexuality
A Nigerian-British businessman died after a fifth penile filler injection. The clinic said he had been a regular patient. The last session was 40cc in one sitting. A coroner later linked the procedure to a fatal pulmonary embolism.
That headline is not entertainment. It is a warning.
Pornography has discipled a generation of men to believe that what God formed is not enough. Size becomes identity. Injections become “self-improvement.” The body is treated as raw material to be upgraded instead of a temple to be stewarded.
Scripture will not bless that lie.
“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm 139:14)
“Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” (1 Corinthians 6:19–20)
The marriage bed does not require a redesigned organ. It requires a redeemed heart, a faithful covenant, and a husband who loves his wife as Christ loves the church — not a man chasing an image that never existed in Eden.
Non-surgical does not mean harmless. Fillers in highly vascular tissue can migrate, clot, infect, deform, or kill. Death is rare. Disfigurement, pain, and regret are not.
Brother: the Lord who knit you together did not forget your body. Contentment is not settling. It is worship.
Sister: do not measure a husband by a screen. Measure him by covenant, character, and Christ.
The culture sells enlargement. The gospel sells enough.
Your body is not a project.
It is purchased.
Glorify God in it.
by Admin Admin | Sep 11, 2026 | Relationships, Sexuality
(Usually through small poison repeated daily.)
He does not always need a scandal.
He only needs a whisper.
“Not now.
Tell him you’re tired.”
One night.
Then another.
Then a pattern.
The marriage bed grows cold.
Affection is withheld.
The enemy finds an open door.
God’s Word is not silent:
“The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband… Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
— 1 Corinthians 7:3, 5
Intimacy in marriage is not a bargaining chip.
It is a covenant gift and a protection.
Do not let “I’m tired” become the daily poison that starves your union.
Guard the bed.
Guard the bond.
Give the enemy no foothold.
by Admin Admin | Sep 3, 2026 | Advice to Young Adults, Relationships, Sexual Purity, Sexuality
There are men whose work is to get unmarried women of 40–50 pregnant paid for the seed, then gone. The child is part of the deal only until conception. After that, fatherhood is treated as optional.
That is not God’s design. That is a market.
A child is not a product. A man is not a stud. A woman is not a client. Fatherhood is a covenant calling, not a fee. God joined sex, marriage, and children together in one holy pattern: one man, one woman, one flesh, for life. When we pull them apart, someone always pays usually the child who grows up asking, “Where is my father?” A bank transfer does not answer that question.
If you are a woman who reached 40 or 50 without a husband or children, hear this with tenderness: the ache is real. Old age can be lonely. The world will sell you a shortcut a vial, a stranger, a contract, a baby with no dad in the house.
Do not buy it.
Your Maker is your Husband.
WHAT YOU SHOULD DO
“For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is His name.” Isaiah 54:5
He is a Father to the fatherless and a defender of the widow.
Psalm 68:5
- Tell God the grief. He can hold it. Do not baptize the pain as “God made me for this arrangement.”
- Refuse to create a fatherless child to soothe loneliness. That is using a person to treat a wound.
- Find family in the household of God spiritual sons and daughters, the church, younger women to mother (Titus 2).
- Practice contentment in Christ, not denial of desire (Philippians 4:11–13). Desire can be real and still not licensed.
- Serve. Loneliness shrinks when love is poured out.
Holiness is costly. So is loneliness. Choose the cost that leads to life.
You are not forgotten. You are not a case for hire. You belong to Christ
by Admin Admin | Aug 29, 2026 | Relationships, Sexual Purity, Sexuality
Being a single mother or a young widow can be difficult. Many still desire a godly husband, a peaceful home, and someone with whom they can grow old. But for a mother with children, marriage is not only about finding a husband. She must also think seriously about the safety and future of her children.
Sadly, not every man who appears loving and godly has good intentions. Jesus warned about people who come in “sheep’s clothing” but inwardly are dangerous wolves (Matthew 7:15).
There are painful stories of women who remarried hoping that the new husband would become a loving father to their children, only for those children to later suffer sexual abuse or other forms of mistreatment. In some cases, the marriage itself becomes abusive and destructive.
Does this mean Christian single mothers and widows should give up on marriage? No.
There are still godly men who genuinely fear God, respect women, protect children, and understand the responsibility of becoming a husband and stepfather. But a woman should never rush into marriage because she is lonely, under pressure, struggling financially, or afraid of growing old alone.
Marriage requires prayer, wisdom, patience, careful observation, godly counsel, and proper knowledge of the person you intend to marry. A man’s character matters more than his promises.
For the Church, this is also a call to action. Young widows and single mothers should not be abandoned to struggle alone. The Church should provide spiritual support, genuine friendship, practical assistance, wise counselling, and a safe community for them and their children.
We must also teach the younger generation the importance of Biblical sexual purity. Sexual purity will not eliminate every cause of single motherhood—some women become single mothers through widowhood, abandonment, divorce, abuse, or other circumstances. But abstaining from sex outside marriage can prevent many unplanned pregnancies and some of the painful situations that follow them.
Our young people need to understand that God’s instructions concerning sexual purity are not meant to destroy their happiness. They are boundaries intended for their good.
And to the Christian single mother or young widow wondering about her future: your life is not over.
Marriage may still be part of your future, but marriage should never become more important than obedience to God or the safety of your children. Seek God, walk in wisdom, protect your children, and never ignore serious warning signs simply because you desire companionship.
“A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions.” — Proverbs 22:3
Let us build Christian communities where widows, single mothers, fatherless children, and vulnerable families are protected, supported, and loved.
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by Admin Admin | Aug 27, 2026 | Advice to Young Adults, News & Views, Relationships, Sexual Purity, Sexuality
Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo Launches Christian Matchmaking Platform With ₦700,000 VIP Plan
Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo has launched Mentor To Marry, a Christian marriage-preparation and matchmaking platform designed to help Christian singles aged 25 and above prepare for marriage and connect with potential partners.
Unlike conventional dating platforms that may focus primarily on finding matches, Mentor To Marry places mentorship and marriage preparation before matchmaking. Participants are expected to undergo an eight-week mentoring programme, including assessments and accountability, before receiving recommendations or introductions.
The platform offers three annual membership packages: Regular – ₦70,000, Premium – ₦350,000, and VIP – ₦700,000. The VIP package includes additional support such as a dedicated matchmaker and coach.
The initiative is operated through Love, Dating and Marriage Ministries, founded by Pastors Kingsley and Mildred Okonkwo.
For Christians pursuing biblical sexual purity, the development raises an important conversation about intentional relationships. In a culture where casual sex, sexual immorality and uncommitted relationships are increasingly normalized, Christian singles need more than attraction—they need wisdom, accountability, spiritual maturity and a clear understanding of God’s purpose for marriage.
Whether or not one chooses a paid matchmaking service, the biblical principle remains: relationships should honour God, protect sexual purity and approach marriage with wisdom and intentionality.
Christian singles must remember that finding a spouse should never become more important than remaining faithful to Christ.
“For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication.” 1 Thessalonians 4:3 (KJV)
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by Admin Admin | Aug 26, 2026 | Advice to Young Adults, Relationships
Some of you have carried this for as long as you can remember.
You did not sit down one afternoon and choose it. It was there in the schoolyard. It was there when other boys or other girls started to wake up to the opposite sex, and your heart did not move the same way. You prayed. You bargained. You asked God to take it. And when the feeling stayed, a quieter question settled in: Then did You make me like this?
The church must not mock that story. A young person who has felt different for years is not helped by being called a liar, a pretender, or “just rebellious.” Jesus never crushed the bruised reed. If that is you, hear this plainly: your pain is seen. Your tears have been counted. You are not disgusting to the Lord who made you.
But beloved, “I have felt this since I was young” is not the same sentence as “God wrote this over my life and called it good.”
We were all born into a world that is not the way God first made it. Something broke in the garden, and every one of us came out of our mother’s womb already leaning away from God. That is not only “their” story. That is our story.
David did not say this as a man making excuses. He said it as a man on his face:
Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin did my mother conceive me.
Psalm 51:5
He was not blaming his mother. He was telling the truth about the human heart. We do not become sinners the first time we act. We act because something in us is already bent. Being born with a pull does not make the pull holy. It only proves that we need a Saviour from the start.
Some will say, “But science will prove we are born this way.” Even if researchers one day mapped every gene, every hormone, every early wound, and every pattern in the brain, that map would still not outrank the Word of God. Biology can describe a vulnerability. It cannot issue a blessing. Romans does not get rewritten in a laboratory.
Look around the church and you will see the same principle in other clothes. A brother did not choose the thirst that keeps drawing him back to the bottle. A sister did not choose the fear that turns into control. Many men did not choose the appetite that makes a woman’s body on a screen feel like air. Those pulls can be early. They can be strong. They can feel like “me.” And still Jesus does not say, “If it is strong and early, it is sacred.”
He says something better, and harder, and more full of hope:
That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Do not marvel that I said to you, “You must be born again.”
John 3:6–7
There is a first birth. You received it from Adam. That birth explains why desire can be crooked before you ever had language for it.
There is a second birth. You receive it from Christ. That birth does not always silence every old feeling on the first night. But it does give you a new heart, a new Master, and a new name. It means the loudest voice in you is no longer allowed to be lord.
So if you have said, “I was born this way,” you may be describing the ache honestly. Just do not stop there. The gospel is not, “Stay as you were born in Adam.” The gospel is, “Come and be born from above.”
Jesus is not asking you to pretend the feeling never existed. He is asking you to stop treating the feeling as the truest thing about you. The truest thing about you, if you belong to Him, is not the bent. It is the blood. Not the old nature. The new creation. Not “this is how I came into the world.” This is how He came into the world for you.
And if the knock of that old desire still comes some mornings, it does not mean He failed you. It means you still need Him. That is not a curse. That is the Christian life. We live from the first birth and the second birth at once, until the day He finishes what He started and every crooked thing is made straight.
Until that day, do not call the wound a gift just because you did not choose it. Bring the wound to the wounded Saviour. He was born into our flesh so that we could be born into His life.
