A Nigerian-British businessman died after a fifth penile filler injection. The clinic said he had been a regular patient. The last session was 40cc in one sitting. A coroner later linked the procedure to a fatal pulmonary embolism.
That headline is not entertainment. It is a warning.
Pornography has discipled a generation of men to believe that what God formed is not enough. Size becomes identity. Injections become “self-improvement.” The body is treated as raw material to be upgraded instead of a temple to be stewarded.
Scripture will not bless that lie.
“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm 139:14)
“Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” (1 Corinthians 6:19–20)
The marriage bed does not require a redesigned organ. It requires a redeemed heart, a faithful covenant, and a husband who loves his wife as Christ loves the church — not a man chasing an image that never existed in Eden.
Non-surgical does not mean harmless. Fillers in highly vascular tissue can migrate, clot, infect, deform, or kill. Death is rare. Disfigurement, pain, and regret are not.
Brother: the Lord who knit you together did not forget your body. Contentment is not settling. It is worship.
Sister: do not measure a husband by a screen. Measure him by covenant, character, and Christ.
The culture sells enlargement. The gospel sells enough.
Your body is not a project. It is purchased. Glorify God in it.
When the love of money meets a hungry body, purity is the first thing sold.
There is a story that keeps returning in different clothes. The names change. The cities change. The ending is almost always the same: a young person who thought money would heal hunger, and discovered that selling the body only multiplies the hunger.
This is not written to mock anyone. It is written because someone you love may already be standing where this young man stood tired of lack, ashamed of delay, and willing to trade what God called holy for what looks like a way out.
A young man and a lie that looked like opportunity
He was twenty-three. Old enough to feel his parents’ expectations. Young enough to believe a shortcut could still be clean. At home he was the son travelling to Ghana “for a job.” In secret he had already decided that his body would be the job.
Men paid. The money came. And once money has touched a hidden sin, the heart learns a new language: this is not wickedness; this is hustle. This is not rebellion; this is survival.
When he arrived, a relative who should have protected him opened the door. Family can be covering. Family can also become the marketplace. The first client paid well. Morning came with cash in hand. His eyes widened. From that moment the calculation changed: dress well, eat well, look attractive, return again. The body became an investment. The soul became the interest no one counted.
Then came the night that did not stay in the night. After an encounter that violated the design of his body, he grew terribly ill. Fear replaced appetite. He ran from place to place. He came home. His frightened parents took him to a spiritualist who said he had been used for ritual purposes.
What followed was panic, shame, and only partial recovery. A so-called solution was later offered: marry a woman and the trouble will settle. Marriage was treated like a charm. The crisis quieted for a time. A quiet crisis is not the same thing as a healed man.
The point is not the spectacle. The point is the pattern: poverty pressed him, money dazzled him, secrecy trained him, and sin billed him later with interest.
“For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.” — 1 Timothy 6:10
What this story is really about
Scripture does not bless sexual practice outside the covenant of marriage between a man and a woman. Selling the body is not clever entrepreneurship; it is merchandising a temple God already claimed.
But if we only scold the act and never name the hunger underneath, we will keep losing the same young people. This story is also about discontent. About a generation told that dignity waits until the account is fat. About homes that never talk about sex, money, and shame in the same room. About a church that sometimes preaches purity as a slogan and never as a shelter for the broke, the delayed, and the tempted.
“Better a little with the fear of the Lord than great wealth with turmoil.” — Proverbs 15:16
Lessons for the heart that is tired of waiting
Sudden money is not the same as God’s provision. Cash that arrives by selling what God called holy is bait. The first payment is designed to widen the eyes. After that, the soul bargains more cheaply.
The body is not a side hustle. “Flee from sexual immorality… You are not your own; you were bought at a price” (1 Corinthians 6:18–20). If Christ purchased you, no client and no “connection” has the right to lease you.
A lie to the people who love you is already a wound. “I’m travelling for a job” is often the first brick in a secret life. When the story you tell at home cannot survive the light, do not go.
Not every relative is covering. Blood is not the same as covenant. If someone close offers access to sin dressed as help, that is recruitment, not loyalty.
Sin has a body. What begins as “just this once” can leave marks on health, mind, and future. “Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction” (Galatians 6:8). Seek real medical care and wise pastoral help. Do not trade one darkness for another by running only to fear-based “solutions.”
Marriage is not a ritual patch. A wife is not a charm to reverse consequences. Marriage is a holy covenant, not a reset button. If you marry to hide, you will carry the hiding into the home. Repent first. Be healed in the light. Then, if God gives marriage, enter it cleanly.
Poverty is a test of worship, not a license to sin. Economic melt-down is real. None of that rewrites 1 Thessalonians 4:3–5: it is God’s will that you be sanctified and avoid sexual immorality. Purity is not only for people who already have enough. It is especially for those who do not.
There is a way home that does not require another transaction. Christ does not buy you back with your body. He already bought you with His. Confession, accountability, honest work, and a church that will walk with the ashamed are slower than an envelope of cash. They are also the only path that does not steal your future to pay for your present.
A word to parents
Ask better questions than “Have you eaten?” Ask where the money is coming from. Ask who is “helping.” Create a home where a son can say “I am broke and tempted” before he says “I am travelling.” Shame grows in silence. So does the market that feeds on your child.
A word to the one who already went
If this sounds like your diary: you are not finished. The Gospel is not for people who never sold themselves. It is for people who did and still have a name God has not erased. Come out of the lie. Tell a trustworthy believer. Seek medical help if your body is unwell. Cut the contacts. Stop calling sin a job. Receive the mercy that does not require you to look attractive for it.
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9
The ministry’s charge
Holiness is not a luxury for comfortable seasons. It is obedience when the economy shakes and the phone lights up with an offer. Stay sexually pure in difficulty. Do not let lack become a pimp. Do not let family become a broker. Do not let marriage become a cover. Sudden wealth is not the answer to poverty. Christ is not late, and your body is not for sale.
There are men whose work is to get unmarried women of 40–50 pregnant paid for the seed, then gone. The child is part of the deal only until conception. After that, fatherhood is treated as optional. That is not God’s design. That is a market. A child is not a product. A man is not a stud. A woman is not a client. Fatherhood is a covenant calling, not a fee. God joined sex, marriage, and children together in one holy pattern: one man, one woman, one flesh, for life. When we pull them apart, someone always pays usually the child who grows up asking, “Where is my father?” A bank transfer does not answer that question. If you are a woman who reached 40 or 50 without a husband or children, hear this with tenderness: the ache is real. Old age can be lonely. The world will sell you a shortcut a vial, a stranger, a contract, a baby with no dad in the house. Do not buy it. Your Maker is your Husband. WHAT YOU SHOULD DO “For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is His name.” Isaiah 54:5 He is a Father to the fatherless and a defender of the widow. Psalm 68:5
Tell God the grief. He can hold it. Do not baptize the pain as “God made me for this arrangement.”
Refuse to create a fatherless child to soothe loneliness. That is using a person to treat a wound.
Find family in the household of God spiritual sons and daughters, the church, younger women to mother (Titus 2).
Practice contentment in Christ, not denial of desire (Philippians 4:11–13). Desire can be real and still not licensed.
Serve. Loneliness shrinks when love is poured out. Holiness is costly. So is loneliness. Choose the cost that leads to life. You are not forgotten. You are not a case for hire. You belong to Christ
Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo Launches Christian Matchmaking Platform With ₦700,000 VIP Plan
Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo has launched Mentor To Marry, a Christian marriage-preparation and matchmaking platform designed to help Christian singles aged 25 and above prepare for marriage and connect with potential partners.
Unlike conventional dating platforms that may focus primarily on finding matches, Mentor To Marry places mentorship and marriage preparation before matchmaking. Participants are expected to undergo an eight-week mentoring programme, including assessments and accountability, before receiving recommendations or introductions.
The platform offers three annual membership packages: Regular – ₦70,000, Premium – ₦350,000, and VIP – ₦700,000. The VIP package includes additional support such as a dedicated matchmaker and coach.
The initiative is operated through Love, Dating and Marriage Ministries, founded by Pastors Kingsley and Mildred Okonkwo.
For Christians pursuing biblical sexual purity, the development raises an important conversation about intentional relationships. In a culture where casual sex, sexual immorality and uncommitted relationships are increasingly normalized, Christian singles need more than attraction—they need wisdom, accountability, spiritual maturity and a clear understanding of God’s purpose for marriage.
Whether or not one chooses a paid matchmaking service, the biblical principle remains: relationships should honour God, protect sexual purity and approach marriage with wisdom and intentionality.
Christian singles must remember that finding a spouse should never become more important than remaining faithful to Christ.
“For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication.” 1 Thessalonians 4:3 (KJV)
Some of you have carried this for as long as you can remember.
You did not sit down one afternoon and choose it. It was there in the schoolyard. It was there when other boys or other girls started to wake up to the opposite sex, and your heart did not move the same way. You prayed. You bargained. You asked God to take it. And when the feeling stayed, a quieter question settled in: Then did You make me like this?
The church must not mock that story. A young person who has felt different for years is not helped by being called a liar, a pretender, or “just rebellious.” Jesus never crushed the bruised reed. If that is you, hear this plainly: your pain is seen. Your tears have been counted. You are not disgusting to the Lord who made you.
But beloved, “I have felt this since I was young” is not the same sentence as “God wrote this over my life and called it good.”
We were all born into a world that is not the way God first made it. Something broke in the garden, and every one of us came out of our mother’s womb already leaning away from God. That is not only “their” story. That is our story.
David did not say this as a man making excuses. He said it as a man on his face:
Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin did my mother conceive me. Psalm 51:5
He was not blaming his mother. He was telling the truth about the human heart. We do not become sinners the first time we act. We act because something in us is already bent. Being born with a pull does not make the pull holy. It only proves that we need a Saviour from the start.
Some will say, “But science will prove we are born this way.” Even if researchers one day mapped every gene, every hormone, every early wound, and every pattern in the brain, that map would still not outrank the Word of God. Biology can describe a vulnerability. It cannot issue a blessing. Romans does not get rewritten in a laboratory.
Look around the church and you will see the same principle in other clothes. A brother did not choose the thirst that keeps drawing him back to the bottle. A sister did not choose the fear that turns into control. Many men did not choose the appetite that makes a woman’s body on a screen feel like air. Those pulls can be early. They can be strong. They can feel like “me.” And still Jesus does not say, “If it is strong and early, it is sacred.”
He says something better, and harder, and more full of hope:
That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Do not marvel that I said to you, “You must be born again.” John 3:6–7
There is a first birth. You received it from Adam. That birth explains why desire can be crooked before you ever had language for it.
There is a second birth. You receive it from Christ. That birth does not always silence every old feeling on the first night. But it does give you a new heart, a new Master, and a new name. It means the loudest voice in you is no longer allowed to be lord.
So if you have said, “I was born this way,” you may be describing the ache honestly. Just do not stop there. The gospel is not, “Stay as you were born in Adam.” The gospel is, “Come and be born from above.”
Jesus is not asking you to pretend the feeling never existed. He is asking you to stop treating the feeling as the truest thing about you. The truest thing about you, if you belong to Him, is not the bent. It is the blood. Not the old nature. The new creation. Not “this is how I came into the world.” This is how He came into the world for you.
And if the knock of that old desire still comes some mornings, it does not mean He failed you. It means you still need Him. That is not a curse. That is the Christian life. We live from the first birth and the second birth at once, until the day He finishes what He started and every crooked thing is made straight.
Until that day, do not call the wound a gift just because you did not choose it. Bring the wound to the wounded Saviour. He was born into our flesh so that we could be born into His life.
Before introducing sex toys or other sexual aids into marriage, couples should prayerfully consider several questions:
Does it strengthen intimacy between us? Marital sexuality should draw husband and wife closer rather than make either spouse feel inadequate, unwanted, or replaceable.
Could it become a dependency? If a person becomes unable or unwilling to enjoy intimacy without a particular object or stimulation, it may begin to control rather than serve the marriage. Christians are called to exercise self-control (Galatians 5:22–23).
Does it introduce lustful influences? If the practice is connected to pornography, fantasies about other people, or sexually immoral content, it introduces influences that are contrary to marital faithfulness. Jesus warned about cultivating lust in the heart (Matthew 5:28).
Are both spouses genuinely comfortable with it? Sexual intimacy should never involve manipulation, pressure, fear, or coercion. Love seeks the wellbeing of the other person. A husband or wife should not be pressured into a sexual practice simply to satisfy the other spouse.
Does it trouble either spouse’s conscience? A Christian should not ignore a troubled conscience simply for the sake of pleasure. Couples should be able to discuss sexual matters honestly and respectfully without ridicule or pressure.
Protect the Marriage Bed
Modern culture often presents sexual pleasure as something without moral boundaries. Christianity offers a different perspective: our bodies and desires should also come under the lordship of Christ.
This does not mean that sexual pleasure within marriage is wrong. On the contrary, Scripture presents marital affection as something beautiful. But pleasure should never become the master of the relationship.
Christian couples should guard against anything that gradually replaces natural affection, creates unrealistic expectations, encourages pornography or fantasy, produces dependency, or damages emotional intimacy.
This is a Christian site that teaches Godly sexuality. This is a mandate that God gave to Hosanna David, that he should proclaim the Truth about godly sexuality to mankind.
