Why are so many young Christian women ending up in regret and late marriage? In this powerful message, Brother Hosanna David uses the powerful “Fresh Fish” analogy to warn young ladies about the dangers of prolonged dating.
Just like fresh fish in the market that loses value the longer it stays unsold, a woman’s prime years are time-sensitive. While suitors come, many ladies hold onto uncertain boyfriends for years — sometimes 5, 8, or even 10 years — only to be left heartbroken, with multiple pregnancies, and watching the man marry someone younger.
This message is a strong biblical and practical warning:
Why time is not on a woman’s side in marriage matters
The deception of “I’m in a relationship” while good men pass by
The reality of aging, fertility window, and how men think
Advice for young ladies: Settle down with a serious, godly man who has vision while you’re still fresh and highly desired
Every young lady, teenage girl, and parent needs to hear this truth!
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Did you know Jacob was buried with Leah, not Rachel? Not the woman he loved. Not the one he cried for. Not the one he labored fourteen years to have. Leah. In Genesis 49:29–31, when Jacob was about to die, he gave a clear instruction: “Bury me… in the cave… where Abraham and Sarah are… Isaac and Rebekah… and there I buried Leah.” Pause. Rachel was his passion. Leah was his alignment. Rachel was the love story. Leah was the covenant story. Rachel had his emotions. Leah carried the promise. Rachel was buried on the roadside (Genesis 35:19). Leah was laid in the ancestral grave of covenant the lineage of God’s dealings. And here is the mystery: Leah was the rejected one. The one Jacob didn’t choose. The one he endured, not desired. But heaven chose her. From Leah came Judah. From Judah came Jesus Christ. Let that settle in your spirit The woman rejected by a man became central to God’s redemptive plan. This is where many people miss it: We are all trying to be “Rachel” seen, desired, celebrated. But God builds legacy through “Leah seasons” hidden places, painful processes, quiet obedience. Jacob’s final decision was not emotional it was spiritual alignment. At the end of his life, he didn’t choose love… he chose covenant. And that is the gospel pattern: God does not build His purposes on human preference. He builds on grace and election. So if you feel overlooked… if you feel like second choice… if life has not chosen you first hear this clearly: God’s choice overrides man’s rejection. You may not be preferred by people, but you can be positioned by God. And when God positions a man, history is rewritten. Because in God’s hands, the rejected become vessels, the unseen become pillars, and the overlooked become eternal significance. If you are in your Leah season you are not losing. You are being written into something bigger
Infertility in marriage is one of the deepest emotional battles many couples silently carry. Behind smiling faces are tears, unanswered prayers, loneliness, and the painful weight of expectations from family and society. For many women, the inability to conceive becomes more than a medical issue it becomes a spiritual, emotional, and personal burden.
This is the story of a woman from KZN who found herself standing at a painful crossroads between desperation and integrity, between family pressure and marital faithfulness.
Eight Years of Waiting
For eight years, she has been married to a loving and faithful husband. Their marriage is peaceful, stable, and built on love. But despite years of trying, they have not been able to have a child together.
Doctors were consulted. Prayers were prayed. Patience was tested. Tears were shed.
Still, no child came.
Her husband has no children outside their marriage, making the silence in their home even heavier. Although he rarely speaks about it openly, she sees the quiet sadness in his eyes whenever he watches fathers playing with their children.
The pain is mutual. The longing is real.
A Disturbing Proposal
One afternoon, while her husband was away, his aunt visited her. What began as a normal conversation soon turned into something shocking.
The aunt explained that the family was worried about the absence of children in the marriage. Then she introduced what she called a “solution.”
The proposal was simple but deeply disturbing: Sleep with her husband’s younger brother a twenty-year-old man who already has children and secretly conceive a child that would be raised as her husband’s.
No one would know. It would remain a family secret.
In that moment, she felt frozen between shock, confusion, anger, and shame.
Not because she desired the young man, but because desperation has a way of weakening even the strongest hearts.
The Emotional Weight of Childlessness
Infertility often creates emotional wounds that outsiders do not fully understand. Society frequently places enormous pressure on women to produce children, as though motherhood alone defines their value.
For this woman, the burden feels even heavier because her child from a previous relationship lives with their father, leaving her current home painfully quiet.
Sometimes she feels:
Empty
Isolated
Unfulfilled
Afraid of disappointing her husband
Afraid of losing her sense of purpose
When emotional pain lasts for years, temptation can begin to disguise itself as hope.
Not romantic desire. Not lust. But desperation.
The desperate hope that a child might finally restore peace, joy, and stability to a struggling heart.
When a “Solution” Becomes Betrayal
Although the proposal was presented as help, deep within her spirit she sensed something was wrong.
Because some solutions do not heal problems they create deeper wounds.
A child conceived through deception could bring:
Hidden guilt
Broken trust
Family conflict
Emotional torment
Permanent damage to the marriage
Secrets have a way of growing heavier with time. What begins in silence often ends in destruction.
The painful questions continue to haunt her:
Would her husband forgive her if the truth came out?
Would she ever truly have peace?
Would a child born from betrayal bring lasting happiness?
Could she live with the guilt?
Sometimes the loss of peace is already a warning sign.
The Importance of Integrity in Marriage
Marriage cannot survive on deception. Trust is one of the foundations that keeps love alive. Once trust is broken, even good intentions cannot easily repair the damage.
In moments of desperation, people can be tempted to justify dangerous decisions:
“It’s for the marriage.”
“Nobody will know.”
“The outcome will make everyone happy.”
But hidden compromises often create lifelong consequences.
True love and faithfulness require honesty, even when honesty is painful.
Choosing Faith Over Pressure
Family pressure can become overwhelming, especially in cultures where children are seen as proof of a successful marriage. But no family member has the right to pressure a woman into violating her conscience, her marriage vows, or her personal dignity.
Sometimes the strongest decision is not the easiest one. Sometimes integrity feels lonely. Sometimes faith means refusing shortcuts.
A restless spirit is often a sign that something is spiritually and emotionally misaligned.
Conclusion
This woman’s story is not just about infertility. It is about the painful battle between desperation and integrity.
It is about a woman trying to protect her marriage, her conscience, and her peace while carrying years of silent emotional pain.
No matter how deep the longing for a child may be, betrayal can never become the foundation for true peace. A marriage built on secrets eventually begins to collapse under the weight of hidden truth.
Children are a blessing, but integrity, honesty, and peace of mind are priceless.
Sometimes the answer is found in the very discomfort we feel before making a decision.
And perhaps when a choice steals your peace before you even make it, your spirit is already warning you not to cross that line.
In today’s world, conversations about “safe sex” are everywhere. Society often defines safe sex through condoms, contraceptives, abortions, or casual relationships built on emotions and pleasure. But beyond the medical discussions and modern opinions lies a deeper truth many people avoid talking about the spiritual, emotional, and moral consequences of sex outside marriage.
The truth is simple:
Safe sex is not condoms. Safe sex is not abortions. Safe sex is not contraceptives. Safe sex is not just romance or feelings.
The only truly safe sex is abstinence until marriage.
More Than Physical Protection
Condoms and contraceptives may reduce certain physical risks, but they cannot protect the heart, the mind, or the soul. They cannot guarantee freedom from emotional pain, regret, broken trust, guilt, or spiritual consequences.
Many people enter sexual relationships believing it is “normal” or harmless, only to experience emotional wounds, confusion, attachment, depression, betrayal, or unexpected life changes afterward. Physical protection does not always equal emotional or spiritual safety.
Abstinence remains the only choice that completely eliminates the risks connected to premarital sex physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Your Body Is Valuable
The human body is not ordinary. It is precious and worthy of honor. Scripture teaches that our bodies are temples and should not be misused for temporary pleasure or careless living.
Sex was never designed to be casual entertainment. It was created by God as a sacred bond within marriage a union built on commitment, love, trust, and covenant.
When sex is removed from its rightful place, it often brings confusion, emotional damage, instability, and spiritual emptiness. What begins as pleasure can eventually become pain.
The Power of Self-Control
In a culture that encourages people to “follow their feelings,” choosing abstinence requires strength and discipline. But self-control is not weakness it is wisdom.
True dignity comes from knowing your worth and refusing to compromise your values for temporary satisfaction. A moment of pleasure is never worth sacrificing peace, purpose, purity, or destiny.
Choosing abstinence does not mean someone is old-fashioned, insecure, or inexperienced. It means they understand the value of patience, honor, and long-term purpose.
Love Waits
Real love does not pressure, manipulate, or demand sexual access before commitment. Genuine love is patient, respectful, and willing to wait.
Many people confuse lust with love, emotions with commitment, and attraction with destiny. But lasting relationships are not built on physical desire alone. Strong marriages are built on trust, respect, character, and shared values.
Saving sex for marriage protects not only the body, but also the emotional and spiritual foundation of a future relationship.
Choose God’s Way
God’s instructions are not designed to destroy joy; they are meant to protect lives. Every principle God gives carries wisdom, purpose, and safety.
Abstinence is not punishment; it is protection. It protects your peace, your future, your emotional well-being, and your relationship with God.
Your body is precious. Your purity is valuable. Your future is important.
Do not trade something sacred for a temporary moment.
Mrs Edidiong is a native of Akpabom in Akwa-Ibom state of the Federal Republic of Nigeria and also a genuine born-again Christian who loves to please God in every area of her life. She was converted in the year 2012 through hearing some testimonies of Heaven and Hell. Although she came to the Lord out of fear of going to Hell, she found joy in serving Him after she met Christ. She used to be a member of Christ Embassy Church. Later she switched to become a full member of the Apostolic Faith Church. Her husband also permitted her to follow her friend Omonoh who is a member of the Deeper Life Bible Church to their Monday bible study where she eventually understood in the teaching of eternal security the danger of worldliness permitted in other churches and also understood the power in the blood of Jesus. The more she studied the Bible herself, the more she understood many hidden sins that she should repent from because she was never taught so in the past but with the help of God, she was able to finish up her Bible study. She also became a great preacher in her street through morning preaching and house to house evangelism. She never allowed that to hinder her duties as a wife. Mrs. Edidiong never stopped asking God in her prayers to review to her if there is still something in her life that she needs to repent from, anything in her life that can still take her to Hell. She had so much desire to get to Heaven at all cost. One evening, after repeating those prayers, she slept off after making love with her husband. After a while, she saw herself in the area where she normally stands to preach the Gospel every morning. As she was preaching, a demon in the form of a woman appeared to her and grabbed her and put her in chains, dragging her. She rebuked the demon in the name of Jesus but the demon would not even listen to her. The demon started dragging her into an unknown destination, telling her she belongs to her and she must follow her to her kingdom. After she has rebuked her and prayed a “fall and die” prayer on the demon, the demon still refused to listen to her. The more Mrs. Edidiong struggled with the creature, the weaker she became. It was just like a cat struggling with an elephant. She cried for help but no one could hear her crying, even unto the Lord. It was as if her prayers and rebukes against this evil spirit had no effect. Then she threw away her Bible and started crying and begging the demon for mercy. Mrs. Edidiong: Please mum, what have I done to you? Please leave me alone. I don’t want to go with you. Demon: You must come with me, you fool because you are mine. Mrs. Edidiong: I reject that in Jesus’ name. I belong to Jesus. Demon: If you belong to Him, why hasn’t He come to save you from my hand? You think you can serve God and Mammon. Haven’t you heard that a little yeast defile the whole dough? So you belong to me because your little uncleanness has defiled your whole righteousness. Come and let’s go. Mrs. Edidiong: No, I am born again, washed in the blood of the Lamb, and I can never have any relationship with darkness because I am of the light. Demon: Oh shut up, you fool. Don’t you know I am in you and you are in me and that has made us equal? Mrs. Edidiong: Who are you? Demon: I am Jezebel, the spirit of immorality. No one has ever entered my trap and escaped it. Mrs. Edidiong: I didn’t commit any immoral act. I have stopped dressing worldly. I have repented from all immoral acts. I’m only married to my husband Utibe-Abasi and I never know any other man apart from him. Demon: But you still hold on to my teachings and ideas (Rev 2:20). What about the one you perform on your marriage bed with your husband? You have indeed stopped watching pornography even since you said you want to go with that righteousness. Revelation 2:20 Notwithstanding I have a few things against you because you suffer that woman Jezebel, which calls herself a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants to commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed to idols. But you still retain the knowledge in your memory and you perform it days and nights with your husband. Those sexual practices you perform with your husband when making love are mine. I taught you all. Haven’t you heard in Romans 1:32, They know God’s justice requires that those who do these things deserve to die, yet they do them anyway. Worst yet, they encourage others to do them too. Anytime you perform these sexual practices I taught you through pornography with your husband, you are doing my bidding. It shows you are loyal to me. So you belong to me, or haven’t you enjoyed my teaching? Now follow me to my kingdom. Mrs. Edidiong: Please, mum, I am sorry. I didn’t know it is a sin. I am doing it to satisfy my husband so that he won’t lust after another woman. I didn’t know it is a sin. Please ma, I won’t do that again. Help Jesus! Save me, Jesus! The demon won’t even listen to her but as the demon was about to drag her into a very dark and burning place, a bolt of lightning came from nowhere and struck the chain on her and the chain broke into two. And she found herself still lying down beside her husband in the bedroom. She said, “Oh so it was all a dream.” She realized the Lord showed her one thing that is dragging her to Hell unknowingly while she was busy trying to save souls for Heaven. She prayed to God for mercy and she repented from committing such from then on. This should be a lesson to all Heaven minded Christians, always ask the Lord to reveal to you anything in your life that can end you up in Hell now before you hear it from the Judgment Throne of God. Many Christians are in Hell today because of sin they never count to be sin whereas there is no excuse before the throne of God. God is rich in mercy but when it comes to judgment, God shows no mercy. 1 Thessalonians 5:22-23 Abstain from all appearance of evil. 23 And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly, and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless to the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. This is a great warning to all married Christian couples who are seeking to get to Heaven.
A God-fearing man often desires peace, loyalty, purity, and a future built on trust. Because of his compassion and sense of responsibility, he may become vulnerable to emotional manipulation. Some women recognize these qualities and may take advantage of them.
Not every relationship begins with evil intentions. Sometimes genuine affection exists at first, but fear of losing a man, pressure from society, financial hardship, or desperation can push someone into making harmful decisions. Pregnancy then becomes not just a child-bearing situation, but a tool used to “secure” a man emotionally, spiritually, or financially.
In many cultures, a man who fears God will not easily abandon a pregnant woman. He may feel morally obligated to marry her, provide for her, or sacrifice his own dreams to avoid shame before God and society. Some women understand this deeply and use it to their advantage.
The Emotional Side Few People Talk About
Behind many manipulative actions is often a deeper human story:
Fear of poverty
Fear of loneliness
Family pressure to marry rich
Past heartbreak
Desire for security
Low self-worth
Competition with other women
Social media pressure and materialism
This does not excuse manipulation, but it helps explain why some people make destructive choices.
At the same time, wealthy and spiritually grounded men are not always innocent victims. Some ignore warning signs because of beauty, loneliness, lust, pride, or the desire to “save” someone emotionally. A relationship built without wisdom, accountability, or boundaries can easily become complicated.
The Child Should Never Become a Weapon
One of the saddest parts of these situations is when an unborn child becomes part of emotional bargaining. A child deserves to be born into love, honesty, and stability not confusion, revenge, or financial negotiation.
Using pregnancy to trap someone can damage:
Trust
Future marriages
Family relationships
Emotional health
Spiritual peace
The well-being of the child
In many cases, both individuals end up unhappy, resentful, and emotionally wounded.
Biblical Perspective
The Bible teaches believers to walk in wisdom, purity, honesty, and self-control. Relationships should be built on truth, not manipulation.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23
God calls both men and women to live with integrity. Love should never be forced through deception, pregnancy, money, or emotional pressure.
A God-fearing man must exercise wisdom, discipline, and discernment. Likewise, women should value themselves beyond material security and avoid building relationships on manipulation or desperation.
Conclusion
Not every woman traps men with pregnancy, and not every wealthy or God-fearing man is naïve. But relationships become dangerous when honesty disappears and personal gain replaces genuine love.
Healthy relationships are built on:
Mutual respect
Transparency
Emotional maturity
Shared values
Spiritual wisdom
Genuine commitment
True love does not manipulate. It chooses honesty even when honesty is difficult.
In today’s world, many people are exposing their bodies online for likes and attention without realizing the spiritual and lifelong consequences. God calls us to honor Him with our bodies, not to cheapen ourselves for temporary pleasure or validation. This message is a warning and a call to purity — reminding you that what seems like fun today could bring regret tomorrow. Protect your dignity, live holy, and remember your body is God’s temple.
A married woman faces a quiet but serious test—tempted by her husband’s closest friend, yet choosing not to give in.
The truth remains: sexual purity is not just about what you do, but what you allow and conceal.
The Bible calls us to honor marriage and walk in the light, not in secret. “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure” (Hebrews 13:4).
No benefit, favor, or fear should make you compromise what is right. Choose integrity. Choose truth. Choose purity—even when it is difficult.
Children are the ultimate mirrors of their environment. They don’t just listen to what we say; they “record” what we do. When it comes to maintaining a home rooted in decency and sexual purity, our private conduct becomes their blueprint for “normal” behavior.
This is a Christian site that teaches Godly sexuality. This is a mandate that God gave to Hosanna David, that he should proclaim the Truth about godly sexuality to mankind.
