by Admin Admin | Sep 12, 2026 | Advice to Young Adults, Decency, News & Views, Relationships, Sexuality
A Nigerian-British businessman died after a fifth penile filler injection. The clinic said he had been a regular patient. The last session was 40cc in one sitting. A coroner later linked the procedure to a fatal pulmonary embolism.
That headline is not entertainment. It is a warning.
Pornography has discipled a generation of men to believe that what God formed is not enough. Size becomes identity. Injections become “self-improvement.” The body is treated as raw material to be upgraded instead of a temple to be stewarded.
Scripture will not bless that lie.
“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm 139:14)
“Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” (1 Corinthians 6:19–20)
The marriage bed does not require a redesigned organ. It requires a redeemed heart, a faithful covenant, and a husband who loves his wife as Christ loves the church — not a man chasing an image that never existed in Eden.
Non-surgical does not mean harmless. Fillers in highly vascular tissue can migrate, clot, infect, deform, or kill. Death is rare. Disfigurement, pain, and regret are not.
Brother: the Lord who knit you together did not forget your body. Contentment is not settling. It is worship.
Sister: do not measure a husband by a screen. Measure him by covenant, character, and Christ.
The culture sells enlargement. The gospel sells enough.
Your body is not a project.
It is purchased.
Glorify God in it.
by Admin Admin | Sep 11, 2026 | Relationships, Sexuality
(Usually through small poison repeated daily.)
He does not always need a scandal.
He only needs a whisper.
“Not now.
Tell him you’re tired.”
One night.
Then another.
Then a pattern.
The marriage bed grows cold.
Affection is withheld.
The enemy finds an open door.
God’s Word is not silent:
“The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband… Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
— 1 Corinthians 7:3, 5
Intimacy in marriage is not a bargaining chip.
It is a covenant gift and a protection.
Do not let “I’m tired” become the daily poison that starves your union.
Guard the bed.
Guard the bond.
Give the enemy no foothold.
by Admin Admin | Sep 8, 2026 | Advice to Young Adults, Homosexuality, Lust, Sexuality
Sex and Money
When the love of money meets a hungry body, purity is the first thing sold.
There is a story that keeps returning in different clothes. The names change. The cities change. The ending is almost always the same: a young person who thought money would heal hunger, and discovered that selling the body only multiplies the hunger.
This is not written to mock anyone. It is written because someone you love may already be standing where this young man stood tired of lack, ashamed of delay, and willing to trade what God called holy for what looks like a way out.
A young man and a lie that looked like opportunity
He was twenty-three. Old enough to feel his parents’ expectations. Young enough to believe a shortcut could still be clean. At home he was the son travelling to Ghana “for a job.” In secret he had already decided that his body would be the job.
Men paid. The money came. And once money has touched a hidden sin, the heart learns a new language: this is not wickedness; this is hustle. This is not rebellion; this is survival.
When he arrived, a relative who should have protected him opened the door. Family can be covering. Family can also become the marketplace. The first client paid well. Morning came with cash in hand. His eyes widened. From that moment the calculation changed: dress well, eat well, look attractive, return again. The body became an investment. The soul became the interest no one counted.
Then came the night that did not stay in the night. After an encounter that violated the design of his body, he grew terribly ill. Fear replaced appetite. He ran from place to place. He came home. His frightened parents took him to a spiritualist who said he had been used for ritual purposes.
What followed was panic, shame, and only partial recovery. A so-called solution was later offered: marry a woman and the trouble will settle. Marriage was treated like a charm. The crisis quieted for a time. A quiet crisis is not the same thing as a healed man.
The point is not the spectacle. The point is the pattern: poverty pressed him, money dazzled him, secrecy trained him, and sin billed him later with interest.
“For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.” — 1 Timothy 6:10
What this story is really about
Scripture does not bless sexual practice outside the covenant of marriage between a man and a woman. Selling the body is not clever entrepreneurship; it is merchandising a temple God already claimed.
But if we only scold the act and never name the hunger underneath, we will keep losing the same young people. This story is also about discontent. About a generation told that dignity waits until the account is fat. About homes that never talk about sex, money, and shame in the same room. About a church that sometimes preaches purity as a slogan and never as a shelter for the broke, the delayed, and the tempted.
“Better a little with the fear of the Lord than great wealth with turmoil.” — Proverbs 15:16
Lessons for the heart that is tired of waiting
- Sudden money is not the same as God’s provision. Cash that arrives by selling what God called holy is bait. The first payment is designed to widen the eyes. After that, the soul bargains more cheaply.
- The body is not a side hustle. “Flee from sexual immorality… You are not your own; you were bought at a price” (1 Corinthians 6:18–20). If Christ purchased you, no client and no “connection” has the right to lease you.
- A lie to the people who love you is already a wound. “I’m travelling for a job” is often the first brick in a secret life. When the story you tell at home cannot survive the light, do not go.
- Not every relative is covering. Blood is not the same as covenant. If someone close offers access to sin dressed as help, that is recruitment, not loyalty.
- Sin has a body. What begins as “just this once” can leave marks on health, mind, and future. “Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction” (Galatians 6:8). Seek real medical care and wise pastoral help. Do not trade one darkness for another by running only to fear-based “solutions.”
- Marriage is not a ritual patch. A wife is not a charm to reverse consequences. Marriage is a holy covenant, not a reset button. If you marry to hide, you will carry the hiding into the home. Repent first. Be healed in the light. Then, if God gives marriage, enter it cleanly.
- Poverty is a test of worship, not a license to sin. Economic melt-down is real. None of that rewrites 1 Thessalonians 4:3–5: it is God’s will that you be sanctified and avoid sexual immorality. Purity is not only for people who already have enough. It is especially for those who do not.
- There is a way home that does not require another transaction. Christ does not buy you back with your body. He already bought you with His. Confession, accountability, honest work, and a church that will walk with the ashamed are slower than an envelope of cash. They are also the only path that does not steal your future to pay for your present.
A word to parents
Ask better questions than “Have you eaten?” Ask where the money is coming from. Ask who is “helping.” Create a home where a son can say “I am broke and tempted” before he says “I am travelling.” Shame grows in silence. So does the market that feeds on your child.
A word to the one who already went
If this sounds like your diary: you are not finished. The Gospel is not for people who never sold themselves. It is for people who did and still have a name God has not erased. Come out of the lie. Tell a trustworthy believer. Seek medical help if your body is unwell. Cut the contacts. Stop calling sin a job. Receive the mercy that does not require you to look attractive for it.
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9
The ministry’s charge
Holiness is not a luxury for comfortable seasons. It is obedience when the economy shakes and the phone lights up with an offer. Stay sexually pure in difficulty. Do not let lack become a pimp. Do not let family become a broker. Do not let marriage become a cover. Sudden wealth is not the answer to poverty. Christ is not late, and your body is not for sale.
by Admin Admin | Sep 3, 2026 | Advice to Young Adults, Relationships, Sexual Purity, Sexuality
There are men whose work is to get unmarried women of 40–50 pregnant paid for the seed, then gone. The child is part of the deal only until conception. After that, fatherhood is treated as optional.
That is not God’s design. That is a market.
A child is not a product. A man is not a stud. A woman is not a client. Fatherhood is a covenant calling, not a fee. God joined sex, marriage, and children together in one holy pattern: one man, one woman, one flesh, for life. When we pull them apart, someone always pays usually the child who grows up asking, “Where is my father?” A bank transfer does not answer that question.
If you are a woman who reached 40 or 50 without a husband or children, hear this with tenderness: the ache is real. Old age can be lonely. The world will sell you a shortcut a vial, a stranger, a contract, a baby with no dad in the house.
Do not buy it.
Your Maker is your Husband.
WHAT YOU SHOULD DO
“For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is His name.” Isaiah 54:5
He is a Father to the fatherless and a defender of the widow.
Psalm 68:5
- Tell God the grief. He can hold it. Do not baptize the pain as “God made me for this arrangement.”
- Refuse to create a fatherless child to soothe loneliness. That is using a person to treat a wound.
- Find family in the household of God spiritual sons and daughters, the church, younger women to mother (Titus 2).
- Practice contentment in Christ, not denial of desire (Philippians 4:11–13). Desire can be real and still not licensed.
- Serve. Loneliness shrinks when love is poured out.
Holiness is costly. So is loneliness. Choose the cost that leads to life.
You are not forgotten. You are not a case for hire. You belong to Christ
by Admin Admin | Aug 29, 2026 | Relationships, Sexual Purity, Sexuality
Being a single mother or a young widow can be difficult. Many still desire a godly husband, a peaceful home, and someone with whom they can grow old. But for a mother with children, marriage is not only about finding a husband. She must also think seriously about the safety and future of her children.
Sadly, not every man who appears loving and godly has good intentions. Jesus warned about people who come in “sheep’s clothing” but inwardly are dangerous wolves (Matthew 7:15).
There are painful stories of women who remarried hoping that the new husband would become a loving father to their children, only for those children to later suffer sexual abuse or other forms of mistreatment. In some cases, the marriage itself becomes abusive and destructive.
Does this mean Christian single mothers and widows should give up on marriage? No.
There are still godly men who genuinely fear God, respect women, protect children, and understand the responsibility of becoming a husband and stepfather. But a woman should never rush into marriage because she is lonely, under pressure, struggling financially, or afraid of growing old alone.
Marriage requires prayer, wisdom, patience, careful observation, godly counsel, and proper knowledge of the person you intend to marry. A man’s character matters more than his promises.
For the Church, this is also a call to action. Young widows and single mothers should not be abandoned to struggle alone. The Church should provide spiritual support, genuine friendship, practical assistance, wise counselling, and a safe community for them and their children.
We must also teach the younger generation the importance of Biblical sexual purity. Sexual purity will not eliminate every cause of single motherhood—some women become single mothers through widowhood, abandonment, divorce, abuse, or other circumstances. But abstaining from sex outside marriage can prevent many unplanned pregnancies and some of the painful situations that follow them.
Our young people need to understand that God’s instructions concerning sexual purity are not meant to destroy their happiness. They are boundaries intended for their good.
And to the Christian single mother or young widow wondering about her future: your life is not over.
Marriage may still be part of your future, but marriage should never become more important than obedience to God or the safety of your children. Seek God, walk in wisdom, protect your children, and never ignore serious warning signs simply because you desire companionship.
“A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions.” — Proverbs 22:3
Let us build Christian communities where widows, single mothers, fatherless children, and vulnerable families are protected, supported, and loved.
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