Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo Launches Christian Matchmaking Platform With ₦700,000 VIP Plan
Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo has launched Mentor To Marry, a Christian marriage-preparation and matchmaking platform designed to help Christian singles aged 25 and above prepare for marriage and connect with potential partners.
Unlike conventional dating platforms that may focus primarily on finding matches, Mentor To Marry places mentorship and marriage preparation before matchmaking. Participants are expected to undergo an eight-week mentoring programme, including assessments and accountability, before receiving recommendations or introductions.
The platform offers three annual membership packages: Regular – ₦70,000, Premium – ₦350,000, and VIP – ₦700,000. The VIP package includes additional support such as a dedicated matchmaker and coach.
The initiative is operated through Love, Dating and Marriage Ministries, founded by Pastors Kingsley and Mildred Okonkwo.
For Christians pursuing biblical sexual purity, the development raises an important conversation about intentional relationships. In a culture where casual sex, sexual immorality and uncommitted relationships are increasingly normalized, Christian singles need more than attraction—they need wisdom, accountability, spiritual maturity and a clear understanding of God’s purpose for marriage.
Whether or not one chooses a paid matchmaking service, the biblical principle remains: relationships should honour God, protect sexual purity and approach marriage with wisdom and intentionality.
Christian singles must remember that finding a spouse should never become more important than remaining faithful to Christ.
“For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication.” 1 Thessalonians 4:3 (KJV)
Some of you have carried this for as long as you can remember.
You did not sit down one afternoon and choose it. It was there in the schoolyard. It was there when other boys or other girls started to wake up to the opposite sex, and your heart did not move the same way. You prayed. You bargained. You asked God to take it. And when the feeling stayed, a quieter question settled in: Then did You make me like this?
The church must not mock that story. A young person who has felt different for years is not helped by being called a liar, a pretender, or “just rebellious.” Jesus never crushed the bruised reed. If that is you, hear this plainly: your pain is seen. Your tears have been counted. You are not disgusting to the Lord who made you.
But beloved, “I have felt this since I was young” is not the same sentence as “God wrote this over my life and called it good.”
We were all born into a world that is not the way God first made it. Something broke in the garden, and every one of us came out of our mother’s womb already leaning away from God. That is not only “their” story. That is our story.
David did not say this as a man making excuses. He said it as a man on his face:
Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin did my mother conceive me. Psalm 51:5
He was not blaming his mother. He was telling the truth about the human heart. We do not become sinners the first time we act. We act because something in us is already bent. Being born with a pull does not make the pull holy. It only proves that we need a Saviour from the start.
Some will say, “But science will prove we are born this way.” Even if researchers one day mapped every gene, every hormone, every early wound, and every pattern in the brain, that map would still not outrank the Word of God. Biology can describe a vulnerability. It cannot issue a blessing. Romans does not get rewritten in a laboratory.
Look around the church and you will see the same principle in other clothes. A brother did not choose the thirst that keeps drawing him back to the bottle. A sister did not choose the fear that turns into control. Many men did not choose the appetite that makes a woman’s body on a screen feel like air. Those pulls can be early. They can be strong. They can feel like “me.” And still Jesus does not say, “If it is strong and early, it is sacred.”
He says something better, and harder, and more full of hope:
That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Do not marvel that I said to you, “You must be born again.” John 3:6–7
There is a first birth. You received it from Adam. That birth explains why desire can be crooked before you ever had language for it.
There is a second birth. You receive it from Christ. That birth does not always silence every old feeling on the first night. But it does give you a new heart, a new Master, and a new name. It means the loudest voice in you is no longer allowed to be lord.
So if you have said, “I was born this way,” you may be describing the ache honestly. Just do not stop there. The gospel is not, “Stay as you were born in Adam.” The gospel is, “Come and be born from above.”
Jesus is not asking you to pretend the feeling never existed. He is asking you to stop treating the feeling as the truest thing about you. The truest thing about you, if you belong to Him, is not the bent. It is the blood. Not the old nature. The new creation. Not “this is how I came into the world.” This is how He came into the world for you.
And if the knock of that old desire still comes some mornings, it does not mean He failed you. It means you still need Him. That is not a curse. That is the Christian life. We live from the first birth and the second birth at once, until the day He finishes what He started and every crooked thing is made straight.
Until that day, do not call the wound a gift just because you did not choose it. Bring the wound to the wounded Saviour. He was born into our flesh so that we could be born into His life.
Before introducing sex toys or other sexual aids into marriage, couples should prayerfully consider several questions:
Does it strengthen intimacy between us? Marital sexuality should draw husband and wife closer rather than make either spouse feel inadequate, unwanted, or replaceable.
Could it become a dependency? If a person becomes unable or unwilling to enjoy intimacy without a particular object or stimulation, it may begin to control rather than serve the marriage. Christians are called to exercise self-control (Galatians 5:22–23).
Does it introduce lustful influences? If the practice is connected to pornography, fantasies about other people, or sexually immoral content, it introduces influences that are contrary to marital faithfulness. Jesus warned about cultivating lust in the heart (Matthew 5:28).
Are both spouses genuinely comfortable with it? Sexual intimacy should never involve manipulation, pressure, fear, or coercion. Love seeks the wellbeing of the other person. A husband or wife should not be pressured into a sexual practice simply to satisfy the other spouse.
Does it trouble either spouse’s conscience? A Christian should not ignore a troubled conscience simply for the sake of pleasure. Couples should be able to discuss sexual matters honestly and respectfully without ridicule or pressure.
Protect the Marriage Bed
Modern culture often presents sexual pleasure as something without moral boundaries. Christianity offers a different perspective: our bodies and desires should also come under the lordship of Christ.
This does not mean that sexual pleasure within marriage is wrong. On the contrary, Scripture presents marital affection as something beautiful. But pleasure should never become the master of the relationship.
Christian couples should guard against anything that gradually replaces natural affection, creates unrealistic expectations, encourages pornography or fantasy, produces dependency, or damages emotional intimacy.
Biblical Sexual Purity and the Battle Against Pornography
Pornography is one of the most widespread and destructive challenges to sexual purity in our generation. What was once hidden is now instantly accessible, often free, and aggressively marketed. From a biblical perspective, pornography is not a private or harmless habit—it is a form of sexual immorality that directly opposes God’s design for sexuality and holiness.
What Scripture Says
The Bible does not use the modern word “pornography,” yet it speaks clearly to the heart of the issue. Jesus taught that lustful looking is already adultery of the heart:
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:27-28
Pornography trains the heart to do exactly this—to look with lust, to objectify image-bearers of God, and to feed desires that should be reserved for the covenant of marriage. Paul commands believers to “flee from sexual immorality” (1 Corinthians 6:18) and to take every thought captive to make it obedient to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5). Pornography is the opposite of fleeing; it is inviting sexual impurity into the mind and body repeatedly.
Scripture also calls us to purity of mind and to set our minds on things above (Colossians 3:2; Philippians 4:8). Pornography fills the mind with images and fantasies that compete with the renewing work of the Holy Spirit.
Why Pornography Is Spiritually Destructive
Pornography damages more than just “personal purity.” It:
Objectifies people – It reduces men and women created in God’s image to objects for consumption.
Rewires desire – It trains the brain to crave novelty, intensity, and unreality instead of the slow, faithful, self-giving love of marriage.
Erodes intimacy – It creates unrealistic expectations and often diminishes the ability to form healthy, real-world relationships.
Hardens the conscience – Repeated exposure can dull spiritual sensitivity and make repentance feel more distant.
Opens doors to further sin – What begins as “just looking” frequently leads to deeper patterns of sexual sin.
God designed sex to be a profound act of mutual self-giving within marriage. Pornography is the counterfeit—isolated, one-sided, and centered on self-gratification.
The Call to Freedom
Biblical sexual purity does not ignore the power of this struggle. Many faithful believers fight hard battles against pornography. The call of Scripture is not “try harder in your own strength,” but to fight in the power of the Spirit and with practical wisdom.
Practical steps rooted in biblical principles include:
Radical removal – Jesus spoke of cutting off whatever causes you to stumble (Matthew 5:29-30). This may mean filters, accountability software, removing devices from private spaces, or changing habits that lead to compromise.
Accountability – “Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed” (James 5:16). Isolation feeds the habit; honest community weakens it.
Renewing the mind – Replace the images with Scripture, worship, and truth. Fill the heart with what is pure so there is less room for what is impure.
Understanding the deeper issues – Pornography often masks loneliness, stress, boredom, shame, or unmet emotional needs. True freedom involves bringing those deeper places to Christ.
Remembering grace – Failure does not mean God has abandoned you. 1 John 1:9 remains true: confession brings forgiveness and cleansing. Get up, repent, and keep walking.
Hope for the Struggle
No one is beyond the reach of God’s restoring power. Many who once felt enslaved to pornography now walk in increasing freedom because they took the battle seriously, sought help, and relied on the Holy Spirit. Freedom is usually progressive rather than instant, but it is real.
Biblical sexual purity is not about achieving perfection through willpower. It is about belonging to Christ, being transformed by His Spirit, and learning to desire what He desires. Pornography offers temporary stimulation at the cost of long-term damage. Holiness offers lasting joy, clearer conscience, deeper intimacy with God, and the ability to love others with pure hearts.
If this is a struggle for you, you are not alone—and you do not have to fight alone. Bring it into the light. Seek help. Keep turning to the One who is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you blameless before His glory with great joy (Jude 24).
Purity is possible. Freedom is available. And the God who calls you to holiness is the same God who supplies the grace to walk in it.
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