Before introducing sex toys or other sexual aids into marriage, couples should prayerfully consider several questions:
Does it strengthen intimacy between us?
Marital sexuality should draw husband and wife closer rather than make either spouse feel inadequate, unwanted, or replaceable.
Could it become a dependency?
If a person becomes unable or unwilling to enjoy intimacy without a particular object or stimulation, it may begin to control rather than serve the marriage. Christians are called to exercise self-control (Galatians 5:22–23).
Does it introduce lustful influences?
If the practice is connected to pornography, fantasies about other people, or sexually immoral content, it introduces influences that are contrary to marital faithfulness. Jesus warned about cultivating lust in the heart (Matthew 5:28).
Are both spouses genuinely comfortable with it?
Sexual intimacy should never involve manipulation, pressure, fear, or coercion. Love seeks the wellbeing of the other person. A husband or wife should not be pressured into a sexual practice simply to satisfy the other spouse.
Does it trouble either spouse’s conscience?
A Christian should not ignore a troubled conscience simply for the sake of pleasure. Couples should be able to discuss sexual matters honestly and respectfully without ridicule or pressure.
Protect the Marriage Bed
Modern culture often presents sexual pleasure as something without moral boundaries. Christianity offers a different perspective: our bodies and desires should also come under the lordship of Christ.
This does not mean that sexual pleasure within marriage is wrong. On the contrary, Scripture presents marital affection as something beautiful. But pleasure should never become the master of the relationship.
Christian couples should guard against anything that gradually replaces natural affection, creates unrealistic expectations, encourages pornography or fantasy, produces dependency, or damages emotional intimacy.