In a recent incident in Abuja, a woman simply exercising her right to say “no” faced violence from a married elderly man. He allegedly slapped her and broke her glasses when she declined his attempt to “get to know her.” Bystanders calmed him instead of holding him accountable. Such events grieve the heart of God and underscore the urgent need for Biblical sexual purity in our society.
Biblical sexual purity is not merely abstaining from physical immorality; it is a holistic call to holiness that honors God with our bodies, minds, and relationships (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). It demands self-control, respect for others as image-bearers of God (Genesis 1:27), and fidelity within marriage.
- Self-Control and Purity of Heart: Jesus taught that lustful looks already constitute adultery in the heart (Matthew 5:27-28). A married man pursuing a stranger violates his covenant and objectifies the woman. Biblical manhood requires guarding one’s eyes and heart (Job 31:1; Proverbs 4:23). True purity flees temptation rather than forcing unwanted attention.
- Respecting Boundaries and Consent: Saying “no” is not an invitation for aggression. The Bible commands husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the Church, sacrificially and gently (Ephesians 5:25). Forcing attention or reacting with violence disrespects the dignity God placed in every woman. Purity respects “no” as a boundary, reflecting the freedom Christ gives us.
- Protecting the Vulnerable: Bystanders who only “calmed” the aggressor failed to stand for justice (Proverbs 31:8-9; Isaiah 1:17). The church must model protection of women and girls, teaching young men to honor sisters in Christ (1 Timothy 5:2). Sexual purity extends to defending the innocent.
- Healing and Restoration: For victims like this young woman, God is near the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Forgiveness is possible through Christ, but justice matters. We urge reporting such incidents and seeking godly counsel.
Call to Action for Biblical Sexual Purity Ministry: Parents, teach your children God’s design for sexuality, exclusive within heterosexual marriage (Genesis 2:24; Hebrews 13:4). Churches, preach purity unashamedly. Men, pursue holiness and accountability. Women, know your worth in Christ and stand firm. Let us build a culture where purity brings freedom, not fear. Visit www.biblicalsexualpurity.org for resources, teachings, and support.
May this incident stir us to live pure lives that glorify God amid a perverse generation (Philippians 2:15).